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10 Things that keep me SANE!!

With all of the things happening in this crazy world of ours, it can be difficult to keep your sanity. Through the years, I’ve discovered a few things that help keep me sane when the world around me seems a bit chaotic. Here is a list of 10 things I do to keep my head on straight.

1) Talking to myself both in my head and aloud.

So, I know what you’re thinking. Isn’t talking to yourself an indicator that YOU MIGHT BE CRAZY? Maybe. But, not all of the time. Talking to myself gives me a chance to hear my thoughts outside of my head. I usually take walks or pace around while talking. I’ll talk about things like…what I thought about that one show I didn’t really care for yesterday and why. I’ll ask myself questions I want answers to…like…Why do “Dry Counties” still exist? I also tell myself encouraging things to build my esteem before walking out the door, cause it’s hard out here in these streets. Yea. Talking to myself allows me to get to know ME just a little bit better.

2) Dancing in the mirror at home.

Because the world and humans are set up the way are, we at times walk around feeling constrained and restricted. Almost as if we can’t be, say, or do what we really want. Now, for a percentage of the population, this is probably a REALLY GOOD THING!! But, the rest of us just want to be unbound and feel free!! Dancing in the mirror by yourself in the privacy of your own home is one place to just COMPLETELY LET LOOSE without judgement and live in your own world unselfconsciously and without restraint. I probably do this at least once a day. It’s definitely a quick way to get those endorphins going, aka them Happy Feelings.

3) Spending time around people who understand me.

There is no worse feeling than walking around feeling misunderstood. We all just want to matter and be understood. That’s why being around people who take the time to really get to know you are important. When you find that person or group that “gets you”, hold on to them. Hanging out and being around people who understand you promote better self-esteem, confidence, and self-assurance. This is why I’m always hanging out with my close friends. When I’m around my team, CAN’T NOBODY TELL ME NOTHING!! Confidence level be on 1000!!

4) Being able to let my guard down occasionally.

Sometimes, A byproduct of having people around you who “get you” is being able to let your guard down. Again, we all just want to feel free and express ourselves unapologetically. Thankfully, I have people in my life who I get a chance to let my guard down with. It takes time and a lot of trust to be around someone and be able to…just BE. This is an important one for me in remaining sane.

5) Relieving stress.

Humans were not designed to handle stress. It does some pretty damaging things to our physical and mental health. Now, there are some situations where moderate levels of stress are healthy and necessary. But, for the most part, when you’re in a very stressful position, you HAVE TO find ways to balance and/or alleviate it. I usually do a series of physical activities to take the edge off a bit. Exercising is a great stress reliever. Playing an instrument is another. Whatever activity you chose, make sure it’s healthy and provides you with not only balance to the stress, but something to enrich your life.

6) Creating art.

This one is kinda how I relieve stress creatively. My art is my 9-to-5. So, I had to create art aside from the work. It’s the reason I have a sketchbook. I can jot down ideas, sketch, and just make stuff just for me. It’s pretty selfish, but you have to do what you gotta do to take care of you. If you don’t, you’re not gonna be good for anyone!!

7) Helping people.

I really enjoy people. I also really enjoy helping people. It gives me a sense of purpose. In contrast of giving yourself space to do something only for yourself, doing for others promote community and help to broaden perspective. Whether volunteering at a local event or assisting the lady next door, helping people reminds you that the world is bigger than you. It’s very humbling.

8) Being completely unadulterated and petty with my closest friends.

Whether it’s listening to the latest hood anthem playlist, laughing at terribly “rachett” memes, making fun of each other, or people watching, there’s nothing like being able to be completely unadulterated and petty with your closest friends. “Petty Riley” is my petty alter ego. I like to believe that I’m a pretty moral, upstanding citizen. But, sometimes I like to act like a complete fool in the company of people I trust. You know, within reason. Although this alter ego isn’t too much different from who I am on a regular basis, most will never meet this person. I believe it’s good to tap into that side of you from time to time. EMBRACE YOUR INNER RACHETT!! Just not all of the time!!

9) Saying NO!

This was my saving grace of the past few years. I used to believe that saying “No” meant that I was being mean and/or selfish. But, now I understand that saying “No” is an indicator of knowing what I want and what I value. “No” makes room for the things that are important to/for you. I learned that saying “No” wasn’t a bad thing. In fact, saying it has been pretty empowering. Do I only say “No” now? NO. But, when I do, I mean it.

10) Knowing who I am.

To end this list, knowing who you are is essential to inner peace. Inner peace promotes clarity and understanding. Those things facilitate serenity, which all bring about sanity. Meditation is a great way to get in touch with who you are. Day-to-day life reveals things to you, about you, when you’re in tune with who you are. Some things revealed are good. Some may not be so good. But, the key is to embrace it all. Knowledge of self and understanding are key. When you have a greater sense of self, you are able to handle life with more boldness and courage.

I hope some of the items in this list can help you in your pursuit of staying sane in a crazy world.

What are some ways that you keep sane? I’d like to know. Comment below…

 

 




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  1. Tiffany M.Graham

    Yo!!!! This is so good B… for real…. Man I miss y’all and the group you can just relax and let your guard down and just be you… Man… I need that and that good old energy…. This is great!!! ?

    • Eso Tolson

      Yo!! We miss you too, Tiff!! Being able to let your guard down is a BIG DEAL!! I hope this list helps out!! Get you some of that good stuff in THA LOU!! Lol.

      ::nods head::


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